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Impressed by the Coronavirus

Impressed by the Coronavirus

Are you also concerned about your health or your financial future? Maybe you are already infected with the virus or you have family or friends who are infected. We can imagine your concern and empathize with the people who are infected, especially the elderly who are very vulnerable!

The Corona virus is occupying the entire world and more and many countries are taking tough measures to prevent the virus to spread any further. It is already apponted as a pandemic, a worldwide disease.

The current state of the world makes many people think. Our health is one of the most important values in life. When it is threatened, you are also confronted with the relativity of our existence.

Why do we actually live and why is life only temporary?

If you want to learn more about the purpose of your life? You are challenged tot think about your life, your plans and the purpose of your life for one week. To help, our volunteers have written the “Think One Week program”.

Participation is free and we do not want to sell you anything. Our goal is to help you to learn about the purpose of your life and to offer you hope for your future.

Get involved and start today to think about your life. We wish you a very valuable week!

The ThinkOneWeek Team

P.s.: If you are looking for some basic information to prevent getting sick, you can have a look at the World Health Organisation (WHO) website

A meaningful life?

A meaningful life?

Every person sometimes wonders what the meaning of life is. Not everyone takes the trouble to discover this for themselves.

Perhaps you are also afraid of the answer to the question whether your life makes sense.

Many people seek the fulfillment of their life purpose nearby. In a relationship with another, in the care of your family and friends.

Perhaps your goal in life is to become very successful and rich or famous.

Do you survive from day to day and are you surprised every day by what the new day brings?

What is your goal in life?

Have you ever thought about the meaning of your life? Maybe you you are satisfied the way you live now and you accept what future offers you.

Your life is probably more valuable than you think. If you want to learn more, you are challenged to think about the purpose of your life for one week. Learning about your purpose can answer a lot of questions.

Think one week about your life

Through this website we want to help you to think about a number of life themes for one week. We want to encourage to learn more about living a meaningful life.

We recommend to read one theme every day for one week, but you also can read all themes at once.

Have a very valuable week!

Why this website?

This website has been set up with the help of an international team of people from different backgrounds. We all have discovered how valuable life can be. We would like to share this with everyone who wants to make an effort to think about the value of his or her life.

Warm regards of the ThinkOneWeek team

Do we Need That Many Friends?

Do we Need That Many Friends?

Friendship had always been difficult for me. I was one of those kids who found himself on the outside looking in. I was bullied and excluded from a lot of activities. Even though I was surrounded by many, I felt totally alone. There have been times in adulthood where that feeling has come back but not quite as strong as it was when I was young. I so desperately wanted to belong, to be part of something. If there was Facebook back then I may have seen it as my way to friendship. It may have met that need for social interaction I needed so much.

We are social creatures. From an early age we love attention. We demand it through cries and wails until a parent meets our need. We learn through play. Our learning is even greater still if we play with others. School is a social hotspot where an important part of life revolves around the friends you have. That makes it all the more difficult for those who are excluded, often for silly reasons. Our early influences are built on friendship, on those who we spend the most time with. We find ourselves liking the same things, taking part in the same hobbies and creating a social structure built on similarity. It is true to say, ‘no (wo)man is an island‘.

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Still loneley

You could say Social Media is just an extension of all these needs. Or better still Social Media is the ultimate expression for those needs. As friends in childhood (and before the days of Social Media) liked and sought the same things, with Social Media those likes and dislikes are given voice but now the circle is larger. We are no longer satisfied with a small group of friends. We become obsessed with building friends on these platforms, with people we will never possibly meet but still hold some influence over us.

The worry for me, if Social Media had been around when I was young, is that I would still be alone in a crowd. It could have increased my anxiety and feeling of loneliness. It probably wouldn’t be the the way to friendship I’d want it to be. It could have lead to me seeking the wrong kind of friendships.

There lies the problem, and possible danger, of Social Media. Recent studies from the last few years have shown how Social Media is affecting the mental health of our teens with Social Media being more addictive than alcohol or cigarettes. It can cause anxiety and depression as users constantly seek attention and are then devastated when that attention is betrayed or not reciprocated.

Do we need that many friends?

Yes we are programmed to be social but do we really need that many, so called, friends? Do we really need to share every movement and incident? Is it helpful to express every opinion we may hold? Social Media encourages all this and it becomes unhealthy and damaging. Outside of Social Media, with small groups of friends, we would never express ourselves the way we do on Facebook or Instagram. Our sharing would be edited according to what someone needs to know. In our small social circles we are more careful and reserved. I have read some worrying posts on Facebook and you just know that if they had just taken a step back, or at least thought about the consequences, they would not have sent that post. Tact and common sense help us socialise in the real world but these seem to go out of the window when we socialise over these media platforms.

Real friendship

I have to say, with open heart, I never met true friendship until a few years ago my life changed. In fact, it was that kind of friendship that drew me in. I felt loved. I felt part of something. I belonged.

If you are seeking friends, if you are obsessed with building that tally of ‘friends’ on Facebook or Instagram, then take a step back and ask yourself what true friendship requires. It should demand a kind of loyalty and steadfastness. A friend should be someone who promises to never leave, no matter what. A friend should be someone who is prepared to give everything for you.

Is there anyone who can meet that standard?

There is… !

You’re challenged to think a week about your life, about friendships, about the things that really matters in life. You can find out more about this best friend by participating in our 7-day programme.

Contributed by Ray Lewan

A great new life

A great new life

Dear reader, I would like to share story of my life. Originally I am from Madhya Pradesh, India. I am 25 years old and work as Male Nurse Hospital for 2 years now.

I ran away from my family when I was barely 7 years old. I have vivid memories of my alcoholic father, my younger brother and loving mother. I remember getting in a train and I didn’t know where it was going. I ended up at Pune Railway station and that became my home for some time.

My daily routine was to beg on streets and railways, steal from passengers. I slept on the street and railway platform and I had to hide from the police. One day the police came at the station and sent all street children to the Government run Juvenile homes which were like hell on earth.

One day I ran away from there at first opportunity and retuned to the railway station. At the railway station I met a few boys and we became best buddies and we formed a gang. I remember at that young age we indulged in smoking, drinking cheap liquor and stealing. We would scavenge for food and eat whatever we could get.

Every now and then I would think of returning home but the fear of father’s beating would kept me from returning to home. During this period I met someone who would come to visit the kids that were living in the streets, chat with us and gave us some food.

He became a good friend. One day he asked me to go with him to a shelter for street kids. I started living at the shelter and was could go to school. There I heard about the love of God for mankind and about Jesus Christ and I learned stories of Jesus from Bible.

My life fully changed

In 2009 I visited a youth camp. It was so powerful and life changing. During one of the meetings I experience the power of God come upon me. I realised about all de bad things I had done in life and aked God to forgive me and help me. I accepted the life saving offer of Jesus Christ. This encounter changed my life completely. I became serious about life & God.

In February 2019 I started praying to find my family. It is really miracle what happened after these prayers. I was 7 years old when I left my house and only remembered some parts of the city I lived in. Me and a friend from the shelter went to my birth city. When we arrived in this city I prayed again that I could find my family.

After that prayer I started to remember the location where we used to live when I was young. But my parent shifted 10 years ago to out of the city into a village nearby. One of the former neighbours helped me to go to the village and to my surprise I found my mother and brother and sister.

My father has left my family 3 years ago. My mother and my brother and sister were very poor. I started sharing my life to my mother and many other villagers. I told them how God has brought me back and how my life is nowadays.

Many villagers heard about the love of Jesus Christ for the first time and got to know about the rescue of lives through Jesus. I was lost but I found God and my family.

Maybe you are not living in the streets, but you can feel just as lost and without hope. Maybe you are also looking for the purpose of your life.

If you would learn how to have a living relationship with God, your Creator, then start your week of thinking and learning today:

Are You Burning Out…?

Are You Burning Out…?

Stress isn’t all in your head. It doesn’t just impact your thoughts and attitudes. Though it often begins there, stress can have a big impact on the health of your body and soul. And finally, it can lead to depression and burnout.

If you’ve ever had a hard time getting out of bed or wondered whether life is worth living, you’ve likely experienced the beginnings of burnout. Burnout happens when you undergo excessive stress over the long-term. It’s a feeling of complete and total exhaustion – emotionally, mentally, and physically. It will steal your energy and leave you feeling hopeless and helpless.

Maybe the worst part of burnout is that, though it often begins there, it isn’t limited to your workplace. It will inevitably spill over into every aspect of your lives. It can destroy friendships and your marriage. It holds you back from being the parent that your child needs you to be. And it leaves your self-worth in tatters.

I know this from first-hand experience. Two years ago, the stress of work and school and family combined to leave me in a state of hopeless paralysis. In the midst of that, I lost my job. There were days when I wondered whether getting out of bed was worth the time or energy. My marriage suffered, as did my relationships with my children. Fortunately, I recognized what I was experiencing before it could destroy me. And that is the first step in recovering from burnout: recognize that you have a problem.

How Do I Know If I’m Burning Out?

We all have days when we feel overworked and underappreciated. Feeling that way occasionally isn’t necessarily a sign of burnout. However, when those days become the norm rather than the exception, you may be headed down the path toward burnout.

Burnout doesn’t happen all at once. It’s a slow, creeping process that grows worse and worse over time – especially if it isn’t addressed. The key is paying attention to the warning signs and actively working to combat them.

So, what are some of the signs of burnout?

Emotional Symptoms of Burnout

Some of the first changes that you’ll notice if you’re on the road to burnout are emotional in nature. You may have a growing sense of failure or hopelessness. You may begin to doubt yourself or lose your sense of self-worth. There may be moments when you feel trapped in your own body. Conversely, you may feel detached, as if you are watching a movie of your life rather than living it. You’ll likely find yourself thinking pessimistically and wondering whether things will ever get better. As time goes on, you’ll find your motivation sapped and even when things go well, you’ll find yourself focusing solely on what could have been better.

If you look at your life and find many of the symptoms, you may be on the path to burnout. If you continue, you will likely begin to see some of the following physical symptoms.

Physical Symptoms of Burnout

In addition to emotional damage, burnout can also create serious physical problems for you. It often begins with a sense of weariness. You’ll find that even after a good night sleep, you still feel tired. One of the reasons for this is that burnout will often cause your sleeping and eating patterns to change. You’ll go from being a morning person to a night out or vice versa. You may not be able to sleep at all. And you may find that you either want to eat more often than normal or you completely lose your appetite. Beyond that, you may find that you’re experiencing more frequent headaches or even muscle pain. And as time goes on, your decreased immunity can lead you into more frequent bouts with sickness.

As time goes on, you’ll likely find an increase in these physical symptoms if you are experiencing burnout. As your body begins to be affected by the stress, your behavior and attitudes will likely change as well.

Other Symptoms of Burnout

If you’re experiencing burnout, you will likely find that your lack of motivation will lead you to begin acting in different ways. You may look for ways to avoid work through putting stuff off or coming in late and leaving early. You’ll find yourself taking out your frustrations on others, even those who are connected to the source of your stress. This often leads to withdrawing from others and isolating yourself. The pain of broken relationships can cause you to take solace in food, alcohol, or even drugs. If you find yourself doing these things, you are likely dealing with some form of burnout.

Is There Hope For The Burned Out?

Though burnout can make you feel hopeless, there is always hope. Tomorrow isn’t set in stone. And the mistakes of our past don’t have to determine our future successes.

I know, from experience, how exhausting and devastating that burnout can be. I’ve been there. But I also know that there is a way through the clouds of stress and burnout. I’ve gone through that fire and reached the other side. And I can tell you, as someone who thought he would never make it another step, that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. There is hope on the other side.

So, how was I able to push through and reach that other side? It was only possible with time and some of the following steps.

Develop and Maintain Close Relationships

We, as human beings, are relational creatures. We thrive when we have strong connections to others. And this isn’t just folklore. Research has proven that people with strong friendships and family ties are happier, healthier, and more likely to find success.

These kinds of deep relationships are never more important than when we find ourselves going through burnout or depression. The dangerous thing about both burnout and depression is that when we go through them, we tend to withdraw from others. This only worsens our condition.

Because of this, you’ll need to be intentional about building and maintaining strong relationships when you find yourself in a season of burnout. Make plans to get breakfast or lunch with friends that you can trust. Find someone you have confidence in that you can confess your experiences to and who will listen to you without judgment.

These are the kind of deep relationships that will not only preserve you during difficult seasons, they will carry you through to the other side.

In saying this, I’m speaking from a place of experience. When I went through my time of burnout, I was tempted to run away. In fact, there were days when I locked myself in my room and shut my phone off so I wouldn’t have to face anyone. But I eventually realized that I was only spiraling downward. So, I followed the exact advice I’ve given you here: I found three or four close friends and began to share my life with them.

Our meetings weren’t always comfortable, and I often didn’t look forward to them. But afterward, I would feel as if a burden had been lifted. I would walk away knowing that I wasn’t alone. And that went a long way toward helping me get through that difficult season.

Take Care of Yourself

During periods of burnout and stress, you’ll often find yourself losing your appetite and unable to work up the energy to exercise. As I’ve already mentioned, this is one of the primary physical symptoms of burnout. But it’s not just a symptom of it, it can actually make your burnout even worse.

As your diet changes – usually for the worse – and as you lose the motivation to exercise, your body and mind will be negatively affected. During my bout with burnout, I started eating more than normal. I’d go through the cabinets, searching for something sweet to drown out my pain. My weight quickly increased, my health suffered, and my burnout worsened.

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Although it might not seem like it, taking care of yourself physically is key to overcoming mental exhaustion and burnout. I didn’t realize just how much my body was contributing to my burnout until a close friend encouraged me to pay more attention to my diet and exercise. Once I started cutting out a lot of the sweets and put an exercise routine in place, I found that the state of my body and mind improved. And thankfully, I had friends who kept me accountable. They asked me how I was doing with my diet and even went walking with me on a weekly basis. This made a world of difference in staying consistent in these things.

Keep Perspective

When you’re in the middle of a season of burnout or intense stress, you tend to lose sight of the bigger picture. I can remember feeling like my entire world was crumbling when I went through that time in my life. It felt as though I had lost everything. And there was a lot that had changed. But someone gave me the wise advice of focusing on the things that hadn’t changed.

Focusing on the stable things in life can help you no matter what you’re going through. When chaos is erupting at work or your relationship with your spouse is rocky, find something that hasn’t changed and hold on tightly to it. Remember, life is unstable and involves change after change. But there are a handful of things that don’t change.

This is one of the reasons that Alcoholics Anonymous encourages people who want to get out of alcoholism to have a belief in a higher power. An unchanging higher power gives us something to hold onto in the middle of life’s storms. It can also help us as we seek a perspective that looks beyond tomorrow and into the distant future.

This was one of the most important parts of overcoming burnout for me. When my entire life seemed to be falling apart, I believed that there was a larger plan. I believed there was a higher power that was holding everything in place. And I was had faith that, in the end, he would see me through.

This faith carried me through my burnout and led me to a place where I’m able to look back on that time with thanksgiving. I’m not thankful that I had to go through such a dark season. But I am thankful for the lessons that I learned there and the strength that I gained. I’m thankful that I’m now able to have more confidence than ever that burnout and depression and stress don’t have the final say.

If you’d like to learn more about how you can experience the same transformation that I did – by overcoming your burnout – I would encourage you to click the link below and begin your journey.

Don’t let stress have the final say. There is hope!

Contributed by Casey Fenn

What about the Evolution of Life?

What about the Evolution of Life?

How did life on Earth start? Was it with a ‘Big Bang’? In this article I will show you some very interesting facts about life that may surprise you.

In many schools today, kids are educated about the source of life on Earth. Most scientists believe that the entire universe started with a ‘Big Bang’; this theory was based on the work of  Albert Einstein and many others.  The Evolution Theory explains that life on Earth began with simple organisms. These small organisms developed over millions of years into animals and finally into human beings.  This process, called ‘evolution’, was presented by Charles Darwin in 1859 and it has been adopted by many scientists ever since.

But today, many scientists doubt Darwin’s theory. We have learned a lot about our existence, and to many of our finest thinkers it seems almost impossible that life on Earth has evolved through evolution.

3,300 books full of information in one human cell

Just take a look at the complex human DNA. In recent years it was discovered that all life is based on these very complex strains of information that are present in each and every cell of our bodies.

Every human life starts with one cell that is already stuffed with information. It contains a very detailed manual on how your body should grow. Just from the information in this single cell your complete body builds and grows. The human that grows from there is fully complete with a brain, arms, legs and somtimes a big nose or small ears ;).

But DNA not only contains this blueprint—it also describes how all cells, all organs, all muscles and limbs will work together. For example, will this person be excellent at playing soccer or maybe become a great designer?  DNA plays a major role in setting these future events in motion. Unbelievable, isn’t it?

DNA is the blueprint for your body. Researchers have calculated that if you were to write down the information that is stored in human DNA, you would need more than a million pages! That’s over 3,300 books! This complex code is not just at the heart of a human being—it’s present in every cell of your body! (read further below the image)

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So All Life Started by Accident?

Many scientists still believe that life has evolved through a series of tiny steps and many chemical processes—in effect, that DNA has evolved over millions of years. Yet more and more scientists are recognising that DNA is so incredibly complex that it is impossible that it could be the result of accidental chemical reactions.

Accidental Computer Software?

So if DNA is too complex to have “evolved” over a series of accidents, what in fact created it? Maybe I can explain it through this example… You can compare the amount of information stored in one human’s DNA to a computer program like Windows. Thousands of software engeneers have been working on the computercode for the Windows software.  Can you imagine an equivalent amount of information being stored in every single cell of your body and this coming into existence from something as random as a series of accidents?

No Chance!

A working software program has never been created by accident. The total number of working programs where the code originated through a series of accidents is zero, none.  No code has ever been discovered that was not designed by someone. Every single working bit of software code was created deliberately, by designers and programmers.

And these facts make us ask the question:  When DNA is at least as complex as Windows software,  how can it be possible that it came into being through a series of accidents?

So if the evolution theory cannot answer this question… What’s the alternative?

Find Truth in Life

Find Truth in Life

As I started to write this blog, my mind just took me back to my childhood days as a four-year-old boy. My mom was taking me and my brother out of the home and sent us to a boarding school. Not knowing at that age why she was keeping both of us in a boarding school.  I didn’t want to stay in the boarding school, I just wanted to be at home, but I had no choice.

I grew up as a fatherless child, even though he was alive. He left our family before I was born, so I never experienced my fathers love and care. He was an alcoholic and he abused my mom physically and emotionally. I  grew up with fear, feeling insecure and full of shame. I developed habits that are not healthy. I used to think I’m a good person but I was different inside and different outside.

As young man worried about my life and often asked to myself: why was I born? Why am I in this world and where am I going? How am I going to live in this world?  Can I blame my Dad for my life because he left us? Can I blame my Mom because she put me in boarding school? I wanted to know the truth about life.  

Someone told me, you can find anything when you put your heart, mind and soul into it. I really wanted to know the truth and wanted to be a different person.  Despite my circumstances in life, at different stages in my life I had people who would encourage me. People who could help me to know the truth, the truth about life, future, and about the world. Thanks to the people who encouraged me, I began to understand and accept the truth. My life changed.

I realised that my life is in my own hands. Depends on my thinking, my decisions, and steps I would take that will have either positive or negative effect on my life.

The truth has given me a hope and a direction in my life gave me hope for future. The hope has given me the courage to take steps in life and as a result, my life transformed and developed to be a better person and put me in a strong position in whatever I did.

My desire was to help people who struggle like me, and was able to help many people in knowing and understanding truth about life.  

So, I would say, you have value and purpose in your life. No matter who and what you are at this moment.  Surround yourself with good people who encourage you, Be who you are with people. Be with those who trust you and help you, no matter who you are and what you do. Listen and accept the truth, the truth about life and world. Believe in the truth that gives you hope and take steps that would build your life and you would see your life transformed and in turn, you would help others to change themselves.

 
Contributed by Abraham
 
 

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Did you know someone died for you?

Did you know someone died for you?

The truth about Easter is that someone loves you very much… Even so much that this person has died for you to save your life!

Do you know this person? If you do not know it, then you might want to know who this person is?

Discover more…

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11 Tips for a Successful Life

11 Tips for a Successful Life

If you want to live a successful life, you first have to think about your definition of success. What do you want to achieve in life? Is it wealth? Friendship? A legacy that people will talk about long after your death?

Determine the purpose of your life

Have you ever seriously thought about the purpose of your life? What is the meaning of life and what is your role in it? If you haven’t already thought about it, this website may help you discover the purpose of your life.

Do you have a financial goal? Do you want to build a successful business or buy a nice house and a fancy car? Perhaps your goal is to add meaning to the lives of other people. If you are creative and smart, your goal may be to find solutions to problems that have not yet been solved.

Another goal for your life may be to make sure that you and your family are taken care of. Maybe you have other goals in life, or maybe you don’t have a goal and just live day to day.

If you want to think about the goals in your life, make sure you can think them over in a quiet place. Take your time and find a place where you can organize your thoughts. Go into nature or find a quiet, tidy place somewhere else. Use some paper and a pen to write down your thoughts. Turn off your computer or phone.

If you already have a goal in life, or if you want to know what others are aiming for, take the poll below before moving on to Tip #2.

What is your main goal in life?
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2. Start close to yourself

Achieving your goals in life often starts close to yourself. Consider what you are good at and what you enjoy doing. Things you like to do are easier to sustain and give you more energy than things you do not feel passionate about. Thinking about what gives you energy will help you determine how you can become successful.

3. Search for your goal yourself

To discover your goal in life, it is best to search for it by yourself. You can let someone else help you, but in the end, it is your life!

Don’t stop! Learn something new every day. Even when you are done with traditional school, the school of life continues. New stages of life require adjustment, so continued learning is necessary. Stay curious about new ideas and new frameworks.

After setting your goal and reminding yourself about it regularly, you may find that your life goal changes over the years. That’s not a problem at all; it’s just part of life and learning. Perhaps your goal will shift from a material goal (a successful company, for example) to another life goal.

4. Think outside the box

Chances are you have been living for a long time in a fixed routine with fixed frameworks. Because of what you learned at school and at home, you tend to think in circles. It doesn’t hurt to occasionally think “outside the box”. Putting all obstacles aside and starting with a clean slate can be very refreshing. Use your imagination and intuition to clarify your goals.

If obstacles still arise in your thoughts, try to ask yourself where they come from. Is it the fear of the unknown? Is it because you have been disappointed about certain things in the past? Is it necessary to hold on to these experiences or fears, or can you obtain a fresh perspective on the matter?

5. Write down your goals

If you have thought carefully about your goal(s) and what you consider success, write it all down. A busy life and daily worries can dilute your plans and cause you to lose focus over time. Write your goals in a few short words or sentences on a sheet of paper and keep it in a place where it will be easy to find. If you still have a paper agenda, you can write your notes there. If you work with a digital agenda, set your goals as a recurring appointment in your calendar.

6. Get started

If you have a clear focus, get started. Don’t daydream. Don’t keep talking about your plans. Just start acting. If your plan is big and ambitious, make sure you cut it down into smaller steps that are clear and feasible.

Don’t let things happen to you. Take steps to reach your goal yourself.

Don’t get distracted by side issues. Sometimes you may worry about completely unimportant matters. Try to stay sharp and separate the minor issues from the main issue. Do you need all of your routines? Identify problems that require a lot of time and energy but don’t add much value to your life, then try to solve them as quickly as possible.

7. Ask for help from others

Trust yourself, but don’t overestimate your abilities. Determine what you are good at and what gives you the energy to continue. By sharing your plan with others, you may find the energy you need to keep going.

Listing what you are and aren’t good at can help you gather people around you who will complement you. You don’t want a group of people who are all good at the same thing you are, but who each have their own specialty that they are enthusiastic about. This applies not only to business goals but also to personal relationships.

Keep the peace and don’t fight with others. Be clear about the goals you want to achieve and how someone else can help. If one person cannot fully subscribe to your goal, it is better to ask for help from someone else who shares your goal.

Keep your appointments with others. Nothing is more annoying than someone who does not meet their appointments or delays them each and every time. It frustrates others and often leads to the end of a collaboration. Make sure your appointments are feasible and always communicate to others when you cannot fulfil a commitment.

8. Be positive and hold on!

Don’t feel bad if you fail to take a step towards your goal. Take some time to distance yourself from the failure and process your disappointment by doing something else or talking about it with others. Maybe they have experienced the same thing and can offer the solution to your problem.

It is not effective to blame others for your failures. Learn from your mistakes and try to find out what you could have done or what you still can do to make your plan work.

Don’t just give up on your plan. Make commitments to yourself and write down your goals (see Tip 5).

9. Work hard, but maintain balance

Without hard work, most goals are not achieved. But it’s also important to maintain balance in your life. When you keep on running, chances are you will burn out at any given moment. Consider including a rest day in your week: one day when you can distance yourself from your daily activities. This will help you recover your energy and gain new ideas. It will also give you the peace and space you need to reflect on your plans and goals.

Saying no can also ensure balance. Nowadays there is a lot going on and you can easily feel like you are missing out on opportunities if you don’t participate. Consider whether the things you are asked for are worth your time. After all, work isn’t a goal in itself.

If you have a family, think about the value of your relationships. Do you have children? What do you want to give them in life? How much time and energy can you spare for your family, and are you prepared to save part of your energy to invest in your family and other relationships?

10. Don’t always look at the successes of others

In a time when social media seems to be an indicator of success, it is best not to let your self-esteem be determined by the success of others. After all, on social media, usually only the most beautiful side of life is exposed: beautiful pictures and nice events. You rarely read on social media that someone has failed or that someone is depressed.

It can help to have a role model: someone who is further down the road to achieving the same goal in life. But don’t forget that this person also has his or her challenges in life, challenges that you may never hear about as an outsider. Therefore, looking at the successes of others can have a demotivating effect.

11. What if something goes wrong?

If your plan or a step towards your goal seems to fail, it can make you afraid or angry. Try counting to ten (or higher) and distancing yourself from what you are doing. If possible, sleep on it before taking further steps. The problem may look much easier to solve tomorrow. By distancing yourself, your view often becomes broader, making it easier to oversee the problem. Maybe the solution is closer than you thought!

If you are seized by fear because you cannot fully oversee your problem, ask yourself why you are feeling afraid. What is the worst thing that can happen and how big is the chance that it will happen? Discussing your concerns with someone else can often be very relieving. The other person may be able to look at your problems from a different angle. Fear is destructive and often leads you to make wrong decisions.

No clear goal in your life?

Many people don’t yet have a goal in life, so don’t feel bad if you are also having a hard time discovering your ultimate life goal. Challenge yourself to think about this some more!

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My name is Sophia. I was born in Fairfield, New Jersey. I am a third born in a family of four kids, two girls and two boys. We were a very happy family who treated each other with a lot of love, consideration and care. My parents were the perfect couple and we were the perfect family. Though my parents struggled financially, they made sure we lacked nothing.  During weekends they would both take us out, to the park, swimming and sometimes watch us as we played games.

My dad was a truck driver who worked so hard and made sure we lacked nothing. We rarely saw him, he would come late at night and head to work early in the morning. He used to take a day off every Saturday and that is the only time we would spend time with him. My mum on the other hand was a house wife, she was always at home. She was the one who took us to school, helped us with homework, solve disputes between us, confide our secrets to and of course discipline us.

Untill life canged…

Things were perfect until my eldest sister was in her third year in high school. A bright girl who was always at the top of her class started to change. My mum was called by school administration several times due to her indiscipline. This went on for few months. One afternoon my mum received a call from her friend to go check her at a nearby local hospital. When she got there she received the news that her first born daughter was dead. The cause of the death was drug overdose. Nobody knew she had been using cocaine, this was a shock to everyone. We buried her and we moved on.

Four years after the death of my sister, my brother who was waiting to join college was caught by police with stolen items. He had joined wrong group of friends. He was jailed for six years in prison. This led to relationship between my dad and mum to be broken. My dad shifted all the blame on my mum. ”my job was to provide for the kids, and yours was to instill discipline. You have failed me and the kids. Look what they have turned out one is a thief and the other is dead”.  My dad used to tell her all the time. My dad could not take it anymore, she divorced my mum. This was a great loss for her, losing her husband and best friend when she needed him more. Even after divorce she still appeared strong and faced life with courage.

My mum’s responsibilities increased due to divorce. I could see her struggle to provide for us. My dad was no longer in the picture. He completely moved out of our lives. I worked so hard at school so that I could help my mum and my little brother. My hard work finally paid off, I received a letter to join Princeton University to study Architecture. My mum was so happy at least one of her kids will turn out to be great. She was so proud of me and always told my younger brother to follow my steps.

From hero to zero…

Losing my sister, brother and my dad affected me, I was so stresses up. I started drinking alcohol as a way distract myself. My mum being a strong woman of faith was able to move on, but for me I could not. I started to drink only on weekends to drinking from Sunday to Sunday. I joined Princeton University for the first year. After we went on a break, I could not go back to continue with my studies. My drinking habit had gotten worse. I had fallen from a hero to zero.

Whenever I came home late totally drunk, my mum would force me to pray with her. By the time she will be done praying, I would be snoring heavily asleep. The following day I would swear to her I will never drink again, but I would later come late in the night drunk. I would see tears in my mum’s eyes and this would pain me a lot. I wanted to change but I could not just stop because I was an addict. This went on for two years. Through it all, my mum never gave up on me.

A new turn in life…

My life changing moment came on one chilly morning. One Saturday night me and my friends we went into a bar and drunk until it was early Sunday morning. My friends left me, having no money on me I had to walk home. As I headed home my mum saw me as she was headed to church. She decided to first to take me home. As she was trying to get me in the car, one of her fellow church member pulled over and helped me get in the car. My mum took me home and headed to church.

Later that day my mum came with the church member who helped me get in the car. He introduced to me as John. He was an alumni of Princeton University. We talked for the rest of the evening. Then he asked me whether I would like to go for rehabilitation, that was what I was thirsting for. He assured me if successfully go for rehabilitation he will help me get readmitted back to the University. When he was gone my mum confessed to me how she had not slept all night because she was worried about me. She prayed all night for my safety. That was the only night I had failed to go back home.

I started my rehabilitation two weeks after I met John. My mum together with John encouraged me to continue with rehabilitation. They would share with me inspiring and motivating scriptures, then we would pray together.  I was not a religious person, I will be inspired for few hours then forget my purpose and went back to drinking.  I couldn’t control thirst of alcohol. Whenever my mum asked me whether I had gone back to drinking I would even swear I had never tasted alcohol since I started rehabilitation. This went on for the first two months.

Change came during the third month of my rehabilitation. One night I had a powerful dream. The dream was about overcoming all my problems and becoming a useful person in my community. I saw a writing on a piece of paper written Genesis 20 [a chapter in the Bible]. In the morning I told my mum about the dream. When I told her about Genesis 20 she took her bible and read we read the chapter. The chapter was about God’s promises to Abraham. My mum was quick to insinuate that was God trying to make covenant with me. I ignored her though I knew she might be right. She begged me we go to church but I declined.

A dream

Two weeks later my mum organized a prayer meeting at our house because I declined to go to church. I was so angry at my mum because she had not informed me. I slipped through the back door and left the house. That night I came home totally drunk. My lovely mum as always nursed me and prayed as I snored asleep. The dream kept on coming back three times. I was not telling my mum because she was making a big deal from it. The dream affected me so much, at first I never saw anything but when it started to come repeatedly was filled with fear.

It was on a Sunday morning when I dreamt the same dream. When I woke up it was around 10:30 AM. I was fed up with the dream and I would have done anything for the dream to go away. I remembered how my mum had told me, I should go back to church. I hurriedly left for church. I entered church and sat near the door. I sat there just in case I felt uncomfortable I left quietly. John saw me and he gave me a smile, I felt a little comfortable. It was sermon time, pastor was preaching. He was preaching about how God loves us, how he sent his only son Jesus Christ to save us from our sins, the sermon moved me so much.

Do you want to get saved?

 At the end of the sermon pastor asked whether anyone want to get saved. Nobody was getting saved that day. He asked again and again. I could not take it anymore, I raised my hand up. He called me in front of the congregation. That is the moment my mum saw me, she couldn’t believe it. I saw tears of joy flowing on her cheeks. She was called to come witness me getting born again. The whole church stood up and started to pray for me.

I went home as a feeling like the happiest person ever. I was free and reenergized to take on the challenges in my life. Whatever I was lacking in my life I felt like I found it. I found purpose in my life through prayers. The urge and thirst to drink alcohol went away and was excited to see the next day unlike before.  From that day I never tasted alcohol again. I joined bible study where my faith was strengthened. Few months later I joined church choir where I started as a junior member to now rising to assistant choir leader.

A big change in life

I went successfully for rehabilitation for six months, I came out as a born again Christian ready to take the world. The following year I was readmitted to Princeton University. During my time at Princeton, I went for missionary work in Africa and India. I also visited more than ten rehabilitation centers as a guest speaker to encourage drug addicts.  I worked so hard to graduate at the top of my class with first class Honors in bachelor of Arts.

I learnt a lot about my experiences. My mum was able to lose her daughter, son and her husband and still managed to move because he believed in Jesus Christ. She used to get her courage through prayers and reading the bible. If I knew about Jesus Christ before, I too would have probably moved on. After I became an alcohol addict and I was taken to rehab, I still went back to drinking. But once I accepted Jesus Christ into my life and became born again, this is the time I was to stop drinking. I found peace and purpose in Jesus Christ.

Today am a happily married woman with three kids. I am a staunch Christian, and I am the assistant choir leader at my church. I am also involved in missionary work preaching about Jesus Christ to those who do not know Him yet. Recently I started my own company called Royal Builders. I still visit rehabilitation centers to encourage them as guest speaker. God changes people once you allow him into your life.

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