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Is Evolution The Solution?

Is Evolution The Solution?

I’m pretty sure you know that you do exist… But are you sure you know how your life -and life in general- started? In this blog I will tell you some very interesting facts about life that may surprise you.

In schools today, kids are educated about the source of life on Earth. We learn that the entire universe, started with a Big Bang. This theory was based on the work of  Albert Einstein and others.  We also learn that life on Earth began with simple organisms. These small organisms developed over millions of years into animals and finally into human beings.  This theory, called evolution, was presented by Charles Darwin in 1859 and it has been adopted by many scientists ever since.

But today, many scientists are beginnig to doubt Darwin’s theory. We have learned a lot about our existence, and to many of our finest thinkers it seems almost impossible that life on Earth has evolved through evolution.

3,300 books full of  information in one human cell

Just take a look at the complex human DNA. In recent years it was discovered that all life is based on this very complex buiding block. 

The first cell that starts your life is stuffed with information. It contains a very detailed manual on how your body should grow.  Just from the information in this one cell your complete body builds and grows. The resulting human is fully comple with brains, arms, legs and maybe a big nose or small ears ;).

But the DNA not only contains this blueprint – it also describes how all cells, all organs, all muscles and limbs will work together. For example, will this person be excellent at throwing a baseball, or will this person perhaps be a great designer of clothing?  The DNA has a major role in setting these future events in motion. Unbelievable isn’t it?

The DNA is the blueprint for your body. Researchers have calculated that if you would write down the DNA information of a single human cell, you would need more than a 1 million pages! That’s more than 3,300 books! This complex code is not just at the heart of a human being – it’s present in every cell of your body! (read more under the image)

So was it an accident that started all life?

Many scientists still believe that life has evolved through a series of tiny steps and many chemical processes – in effect, that DNA has evolved over millions of years. Yet more and more scientists are recognising that DNA is so unbelievably complex that it is in fact impossible that it could be the result of accidental chemical reactions.

Accidental computer software?

So if DNA is too complex to have “evolved” over a series of accidents, what in fact created it? Maybe I can explain it through this example… You can compare the amount of information stored in one human’s DNA to a computer program like Windows. Thousands of software engeneers have written the code for Windows 10.  Can you imagine an equivalent amount of information being  stored in every single cell of your body, and coming into existence from something as random as a series of accidents?

No chance!

A working software program has never been created by accident. The total number of working programs where the code originated through a series of accidents is zero.  No code has ever been discovered that was not purposefully designed. Every single working bit of software code was created deliberately, by designers and programmers.

And these facts make us ask the question:  if DNA is at least as complex as Windows software,  how can it be possible that it came into being by a series of “accidents”? 

So if the evolution theory does not give the answer… What’s the alternative?

Did you know someone died for you?

Did you know someone died for you?

The truth about Easter is that someone loves you very much… Even so much that this person has died for you to save your life!

Do you know this person? If you do not know it, then you might want to know who this person is?

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11 Tips for a Successful Life

11 Tips for a Successful Life

If you want to live a successful life, you first have to think about your definition of success. What do you want to achieve in life? Is it wealth? Friendship? A legacy that people will talk about long after your death?

Determine the purpose of your life

Have you ever seriously thought about the purpose of your life? What is the meaning of life and what is your role in it? If you haven’t already thought about it, this website may help you discover the purpose of your life.

Do you have a financial goal? Do you want to build a successful business or buy a nice house and a fancy car? Perhaps your goal is to add meaning to the lives of other people. If you are creative and smart, your goal may be to find solutions to problems that have not yet been solved.

Another goal for your life may be to make sure that you and your family are taken care of. Maybe you have other goals in life, or maybe you don’t have a goal and just live day to day.

If you want to think about the goals in your life, make sure you can think them over in a quiet place. Take your time and find a place where you can organize your thoughts. Go into nature or find a quiet, tidy place somewhere else. Use some paper and a pen to write down your thoughts. Turn off your computer or phone.

If you already have a goal in life, or if you want to know what others are aiming for, take the poll below before moving on to Tip #2.

What is your main goal in life?
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2. Start close to yourself

Achieving your goals in life often starts close to yourself. Consider what you are good at and what you enjoy doing. Things you like to do are easier to sustain and give you more energy than things you do not feel passionate about. Thinking about what gives you energy will help you determine how you can become successful.

3. Search for your goal yourself

To discover your goal in life, it is best to search for it by yourself. You can let someone else help you, but in the end, it is your life!

Don’t stop! Learn something new every day. Even when you are done with traditional school, the school of life continues. New stages of life require adjustment, so continued learning is necessary. Stay curious about new ideas and new frameworks.

After setting your goal and reminding yourself about it regularly, you may find that your life goal changes over the years. That’s not a problem at all; it’s just part of life and learning. Perhaps your goal will shift from a material goal (a successful company, for example) to another life goal.

4. Think outside the box

Chances are you have been living for a long time in a fixed routine with fixed frameworks. Because of what you learned at school and at home, you tend to think in circles. It doesn’t hurt to occasionally think “outside the box”. Putting all obstacles aside and starting with a clean slate can be very refreshing. Use your imagination and intuition to clarify your goals.

If obstacles still arise in your thoughts, try to ask yourself where they come from. Is it the fear of the unknown? Is it because you have been disappointed about certain things in the past? Is it necessary to hold on to these experiences or fears, or can you obtain a fresh perspective on the matter?

5. Write down your goals

If you have thought carefully about your goal(s) and what you consider success, write it all down. A busy life and daily worries can dilute your plans and cause you to lose focus over time. Write your goals in a few short words or sentences on a sheet of paper and keep it in a place where it will be easy to find. If you still have a paper agenda, you can write your notes there. If you work with a digital agenda, set your goals as a recurring appointment in your calendar.

6. Get started

If you have a clear focus, get started. Don’t daydream. Don’t keep talking about your plans. Just start acting. If your plan is big and ambitious, make sure you cut it down into smaller steps that are clear and feasible.

Don’t let things happen to you. Take steps to reach your goal yourself.

Don’t get distracted by side issues. Sometimes you may worry about completely unimportant matters. Try to stay sharp and separate the minor issues from the main issue. Do you need all of your routines? Identify problems that require a lot of time and energy but don’t add much value to your life, then try to solve them as quickly as possible.

7. Ask for help from others

Trust yourself, but don’t overestimate your abilities. Determine what you are good at and what gives you the energy to continue. By sharing your plan with others, you may find the energy you need to keep going.

Listing what you are and aren’t good at can help you gather people around you who will complement you. You don’t want a group of people who are all good at the same thing you are, but who each have their own specialty that they are enthusiastic about. This applies not only to business goals but also to personal relationships.

Keep the peace and don’t fight with others. Be clear about the goals you want to achieve and how someone else can help. If one person cannot fully subscribe to your goal, it is better to ask for help from someone else who shares your goal.

Keep your appointments with others. Nothing is more annoying than someone who does not meet their appointments or delays them each and every time. It frustrates others and often leads to the end of a collaboration. Make sure your appointments are feasible and always communicate to others when you cannot fulfil a commitment.

8. Be positive and hold on!

Don’t feel bad if you fail to take a step towards your goal. Take some time to distance yourself from the failure and process your disappointment by doing something else or talking about it with others. Maybe they have experienced the same thing and can offer the solution to your problem.

It is not effective to blame others for your failures. Learn from your mistakes and try to find out what you could have done or what you still can do to make your plan work.

Don’t just give up on your plan. Make commitments to yourself and write down your goals (see Tip 5).

9. Work hard, but maintain balance

Without hard work, most goals are not achieved. But it’s also important to maintain balance in your life. When you keep on running, chances are you will burn out at any given moment. Consider including a rest day in your week: one day when you can distance yourself from your daily activities. This will help you recover your energy and gain new ideas. It will also give you the peace and space you need to reflect on your plans and goals.

Saying no can also ensure balance. Nowadays there is a lot going on and you can easily feel like you are missing out on opportunities if you don’t participate. Consider whether the things you are asked for are worth your time. After all, work isn’t a goal in itself.

If you have a family, think about the value of your relationships. Do you have children? What do you want to give them in life? How much time and energy can you spare for your family, and are you prepared to save part of your energy to invest in your family and other relationships?

10. Don’t always look at the successes of others

In a time when social media seems to be an indicator of success, it is best not to let your self-esteem be determined by the success of others. After all, on social media, usually only the most beautiful side of life is exposed: beautiful pictures and nice events. You rarely read on social media that someone has failed or that someone is depressed.

It can help to have a role model: someone who is further down the road to achieving the same goal in life. But don’t forget that this person also has his or her challenges in life, challenges that you may never hear about as an outsider. Therefore, looking at the successes of others can have a demotivating effect.

11. What if something goes wrong?

If your plan or a step towards your goal seems to fail, it can make you afraid or angry. Try counting to ten (or higher) and distancing yourself from what you are doing. If possible, sleep on it before taking further steps. The problem may look much easier to solve tomorrow. By distancing yourself, your view often becomes broader, making it easier to oversee the problem. Maybe the solution is closer than you thought!

If you are seized by fear because you cannot fully oversee your problem, ask yourself why you are feeling afraid. What is the worst thing that can happen and how big is the chance that it will happen? Discussing your concerns with someone else can often be very relieving. The other person may be able to look at your problems from a different angle. Fear is destructive and often leads you to make wrong decisions.

No clear goal in your life?

Many people don’t yet have a goal in life, so don’t feel bad if you are also having a hard time discovering your ultimate life goal. Challenge yourself to think about this some more!

Need help? Visit this website to learn how you can discover your life goal in seven days (Think One Week)!

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How Meaning Came into My Life

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My name is Sophia. I was born in Fairfield, New Jersey. I am a third born in a family of four kids, two girls and two boys. We were a very happy family who treated each other with a lot of love, consideration and care. My parents were the perfect couple and we were the perfect family. Though my parents struggled financially, they made sure we lacked nothing.  During weekends they would both take us out, to the park, swimming and sometimes watch us as we played games.

My dad was a truck driver who worked so hard and made sure we lacked nothing. We rarely saw him, he would come late at night and head to work early in the morning. He used to take a day off every Saturday and that is the only time we would spend time with him. My mum on the other hand was a house wife, she was always at home. She was the one who took us to school, helped us with homework, solve disputes between us, confide our secrets to and of course discipline us.

Untill life canged…

Things were perfect until my eldest sister was in her third year in high school. A bright girl who was always at the top of her class started to change. My mum was called by school administration several times due to her indiscipline. This went on for few months. One afternoon my mum received a call from her friend to go check her at a nearby local hospital. When she got there she received the news that her first born daughter was dead. The cause of the death was drug overdose. Nobody knew she had been using cocaine, this was a shock to everyone. We buried her and we moved on.

Four years after the death of my sister, my brother who was waiting to join college was caught by police with stolen items. He had joined wrong group of friends. He was jailed for six years in prison. This led to relationship between my dad and mum to be broken. My dad shifted all the blame on my mum. ”my job was to provide for the kids, and yours was to instill discipline. You have failed me and the kids. Look what they have turned out one is a thief and the other is dead”.  My dad used to tell her all the time. My dad could not take it anymore, she divorced my mum. This was a great loss for her, losing her husband and best friend when she needed him more. Even after divorce she still appeared strong and faced life with courage.

My mum’s responsibilities increased due to divorce. I could see her struggle to provide for us. My dad was no longer in the picture. He completely moved out of our lives. I worked so hard at school so that I could help my mum and my little brother. My hard work finally paid off, I received a letter to join Princeton University to study Architecture. My mum was so happy at least one of her kids will turn out to be great. She was so proud of me and always told my younger brother to follow my steps.

From hero to zero…

Losing my sister, brother and my dad affected me, I was so stresses up. I started drinking alcohol as a way distract myself. My mum being a strong woman of faith was able to move on, but for me I could not. I started to drink only on weekends to drinking from Sunday to Sunday. I joined Princeton University for the first year. After we went on a break, I could not go back to continue with my studies. My drinking habit had gotten worse. I had fallen from a hero to zero.

Whenever I came home late totally drunk, my mum would force me to pray with her. By the time she will be done praying, I would be snoring heavily asleep. The following day I would swear to her I will never drink again, but I would later come late in the night drunk. I would see tears in my mum’s eyes and this would pain me a lot. I wanted to change but I could not just stop because I was an addict. This went on for two years. Through it all, my mum never gave up on me.

A new turn in life…

My life changing moment came on one chilly morning. One Saturday night me and my friends we went into a bar and drunk until it was early Sunday morning. My friends left me, having no money on me I had to walk home. As I headed home my mum saw me as she was headed to church. She decided to first to take me home. As she was trying to get me in the car, one of her fellow church member pulled over and helped me get in the car. My mum took me home and headed to church.

Later that day my mum came with the church member who helped me get in the car. He introduced to me as John. He was an alumni of Princeton University. We talked for the rest of the evening. Then he asked me whether I would like to go for rehabilitation, that was what I was thirsting for. He assured me if successfully go for rehabilitation he will help me get readmitted back to the University. When he was gone my mum confessed to me how she had not slept all night because she was worried about me. She prayed all night for my safety. That was the only night I had failed to go back home.

I started my rehabilitation two weeks after I met John. My mum together with John encouraged me to continue with rehabilitation. They would share with me inspiring and motivating scriptures, then we would pray together.  I was not a religious person, I will be inspired for few hours then forget my purpose and went back to drinking.  I couldn’t control thirst of alcohol. Whenever my mum asked me whether I had gone back to drinking I would even swear I had never tasted alcohol since I started rehabilitation. This went on for the first two months.

Change came during the third month of my rehabilitation. One night I had a powerful dream. The dream was about overcoming all my problems and becoming a useful person in my community. I saw a writing on a piece of paper written Genesis 20 [a chapter in the Bible]. In the morning I told my mum about the dream. When I told her about Genesis 20 she took her bible and read we read the chapter. The chapter was about God’s promises to Abraham. My mum was quick to insinuate that was God trying to make covenant with me. I ignored her though I knew she might be right. She begged me we go to church but I declined.

A dream

Two weeks later my mum organized a prayer meeting at our house because I declined to go to church. I was so angry at my mum because she had not informed me. I slipped through the back door and left the house. That night I came home totally drunk. My lovely mum as always nursed me and prayed as I snored asleep. The dream kept on coming back three times. I was not telling my mum because she was making a big deal from it. The dream affected me so much, at first I never saw anything but when it started to come repeatedly was filled with fear.

It was on a Sunday morning when I dreamt the same dream. When I woke up it was around 10:30 AM. I was fed up with the dream and I would have done anything for the dream to go away. I remembered how my mum had told me, I should go back to church. I hurriedly left for church. I entered church and sat near the door. I sat there just in case I felt uncomfortable I left quietly. John saw me and he gave me a smile, I felt a little comfortable. It was sermon time, pastor was preaching. He was preaching about how God loves us, how he sent his only son Jesus Christ to save us from our sins, the sermon moved me so much.

Do you want to get saved?

 At the end of the sermon pastor asked whether anyone want to get saved. Nobody was getting saved that day. He asked again and again. I could not take it anymore, I raised my hand up. He called me in front of the congregation. That is the moment my mum saw me, she couldn’t believe it. I saw tears of joy flowing on her cheeks. She was called to come witness me getting born again. The whole church stood up and started to pray for me.

I went home as a feeling like the happiest person ever. I was free and reenergized to take on the challenges in my life. Whatever I was lacking in my life I felt like I found it. I found purpose in my life through prayers. The urge and thirst to drink alcohol went away and was excited to see the next day unlike before.  From that day I never tasted alcohol again. I joined bible study where my faith was strengthened. Few months later I joined church choir where I started as a junior member to now rising to assistant choir leader.

A big change in life

I went successfully for rehabilitation for six months, I came out as a born again Christian ready to take the world. The following year I was readmitted to Princeton University. During my time at Princeton, I went for missionary work in Africa and India. I also visited more than ten rehabilitation centers as a guest speaker to encourage drug addicts.  I worked so hard to graduate at the top of my class with first class Honors in bachelor of Arts.

I learnt a lot about my experiences. My mum was able to lose her daughter, son and her husband and still managed to move because he believed in Jesus Christ. She used to get her courage through prayers and reading the bible. If I knew about Jesus Christ before, I too would have probably moved on. After I became an alcohol addict and I was taken to rehab, I still went back to drinking. But once I accepted Jesus Christ into my life and became born again, this is the time I was to stop drinking. I found peace and purpose in Jesus Christ.

Today am a happily married woman with three kids. I am a staunch Christian, and I am the assistant choir leader at my church. I am also involved in missionary work preaching about Jesus Christ to those who do not know Him yet. Recently I started my own company called Royal Builders. I still visit rehabilitation centers to encourage them as guest speaker. God changes people once you allow him into your life.

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The other day I was waiting in line at the supermarket. An everyday scene for most of us. I always look at the people wainting in line and enjoy the diversity that is there. Every person is unique.

Sometimes something that you buy tells something about yourself. When I check out doner syrup, pancake mix and powdered sugar, I have heard from several cashiers: “Mmm …, do you like pancakes today?” And often they are right. “Yes, we’re going to eat pancakes tonight!”

Or customers who buy pizzas at 17.30. It is not difficult to guess what will be eaten later on that night!

Yet sometimes I see a lot of unhealthy purchases. A slightly older man caught my eye. Pale skin, dirty jeans and a sad look in his eyes. The only thing he bought were five cans of beer and a pack of tobacco shag. Cheap beer and as cheap as possible shag. I wondered what does his evening look like? An evening with a lot of beer supplemented with the smoking of self made cigarettes?

I felt kind of sorry for him. Because if he is going to fill his evening with drinking beer, there is also a lot of loneliness, a lot of hopelessness in his life. It is a way to forget unpleasant events in his life. Washed down with beer.

At this customer of the local supermarket I saw a shopping basket giving a clear expression of a signed life. But for others who look well cared for, have a well-stocked shopping cart and then buy three crates of beer at the same time, can have the same issues in life. The repression of your life questions, of failed relationships or a job that you have lost. But know that there is hope. Always, for everyone, poor and rich.

There is also hope for you!

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Welcome to your The Value of Your Life Quiz

What is your age?
In what part of the world do you live?
What is your gender
Do you have a relationship?
Do you have children?
How is your health?
Do you have friends?
Do you have real friends that you rely on when you are in problems?
What work do you do?
Is there someone who hates you?
What good things did you do in life
How do you compare the value of your life compared with others
What crimes and/or bad things did you do?
Did someone ever die to save your life?
How satisfied are you with your life?

the valule of your life calculator

 

What is The Value of human Life?

How can we determine the value of human life? There are several appoaches to value life. Most of them assume that a person has died. What was the value of that dead person when he or she could have lived, and what would be the (financial) value of the remaining part of his or her life? How can we compensate the loss of a loved one to the relatives? What amount of money is enough to replace the grief of the loss?

Economic value of human life

Despite all dilemmas, many calculations have been made worldwide about the financial value of a life. The amounts range from about $ 40,000 to $ 10,000,000 for a lifetime. These amounts are used by insurance companies, courts and the like.

Slavery and trafficking

In case of slavery or human trafficking, a life is valued on the market. How much labor can a slave do, how good is a girl to be a prostitute, how healthy is he or she, and what is the life expectancy? Can you comprehend how we as humans are able to use other people in exchange for our own wealth?

Other moral issues

What will you do when there is an emergency situation? What is the value of a life when there is danger? Some people will go until the end to save someone else’s life. Even at the expense of their own life. Yet this does not happen so often. How would you react in an emergency situation?

Usually, we are willing to put our lives at risk for a loved one. You will put your own life at risk for your children. But what about a complete stranger?

Does it matter to you whether the other person has done something wrong or maybe harmed a loved one? Would you be willing to do something in a dangerous situation for someone you don’t like at all?

The value of a life in an emergency situation

It is not only in emergency situations that people’s lives are valued. Every day we make decisions that can influence the life of others. Companies try to save costs and sometimes risk the lives of their employees. Was the saving of several thousands of dollars really worth it when an accident happens?
By driving recklessly, we risk the death of another in a traffic accident. Is saving 5 minutes of your time in traffic really worth that?

What is the value of your life when you are old? Can you be valuable to others by helping them? Or are you in need of help and feel worthless? Is that really true?

Quite some tough life questions. I hope all these would be much clearer to you when you take some time to  think about the value and meaning of your life…

Think one week about your life or do the Value Of Life test (above the picture)

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Ever wonder who’s actually in control of your life? We live our lives, work and play. Our hard work often is appreciated by an income so we can provide ourselves a good meal or even more. The love we give to our loved ones will often be rewarded by love in return. 

We plan what we want to do, decide on the course that our lives will go. We study hard at school and in university and then pursue our dreams. We make our choices of who to marry, where to live and which job we want to have.

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I’m in control

We always seem to catch up with our plans. Yes, we believe we can have whatever we set our hearts on. We can live our dreams. We are in control. And that’s true. Hum!!! But who really is in control here!

Then after we have built our empires, lived our dreams and lives the way it seem good to us, we suddenly realize that life is more than all that we ever imagined it to be. Then life makes us to begin to wonder and ponder; who’s is in control here!

Losing control

Along the way, we sometimes loose our loved ones. We even sometimes loose the empire we have built. Most of the time, death, losing, sickness and challenges of life that we cannot even explain come at us. Often it ruins the life we have built. Then we begin to blame
providence, we wonder what is going on. We come to realize that we are not the actual person in control of life and even of our estates. Then we are prone to ask; who’s in control here anyway!

Sometimes, this realization comes too late. It comes at the expense of our loved ones. It even comes at the expense our lives. When the cheeks are down and the sun seem not be shinning bright over our lives.

Lost control of my life

Learn before it’s too late

But how come that man does not learn from the past? How is it that we don’t learn from history!

The greatest the world has ever produced, thought at one time that they were in control. Most of them realized too late that they were just instruments in the hands of an invisible force that they cannot explain but can never deny. Is that the force that’s actually in control here?

It seems like you and I are acting out a script, an already written script, even though we may never be aware of it. Wouldn’t it be better to just find out now who’s is actually in control here!

Is there someone behind the scene who’s running things and running our lives the way it was meant to be?

It’s time to find out…

 

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I’ll be there for you!

Who’s your true friend?

I have recently been watching some old episodes of “Friends” on Netflix. The theme song became very well-known in the mid 90’s and is still one of the most popular tracks of music worldwide. The theme song “I’ll be there for you” by the Rembrandts got me thinking. Who is the “I” in the “I’ll be there for you?”

The world is a tough and challenging place and many people in countries from all walks of life are questioning what it going on around them. In the theme song from the popular comedy, the “I” was a friend, one of many or all of many friends who will be there for each other and you. However, the truth is not quite that simple, is A good friend always there for you?

Who can you trust with your questions?

My friend the psychiatristCan you trust others with the questions that worry you?  Who is to say the good friend you think you can rely on is not really giving you the right answers? Real friends should know us well but even I know that that is not always quite so. Social pressures impact us all and even those we think are there for us are impacted but in a different way. In truth, we need impartial advice, so where do we go?

Many will turn to a professional. Counselling and even psychics have become good business models in the strained world we live in. We all want a way out or to know the future. Many of us are so desperate that we turn to unknown people who claim they can help us or can at least help us untangle the mixed up messages we have inside. Some people are quite open with the fact they are “getting help” to cope and others keep it a secret.  Does any of this really mean these people, these experts, are there for you?

A happy pill

Happy pillsMore “happy pills” are being prescribed than ever before. There are countless energy drinks on the market that give us a buzz and we try to fix our problems physically with some drug or other. Doctors see growing numbers of sick patients with “stress related” problems than ever before. Doctors and Red Bull become the “I” in the “there for you” but again it is not the solution.

New Age thinking and Eastern Religions have some great ideas behind them and much of this has become commercialised to create another “I” in the I’ll be there for you. These come very close to being the perfect “I” and much of what is practiced is actually quite helpful.

Meditation and positive thinking are both massive when it comes to solving life’s problems but again there is always something missing, something within you something you can feel, that real friend that person, being with all the answers. We just can’t quite find it.

Instant fix

Instant fix for all problems

The trouble is that we all want an instant fix today. We don’t want to wait for answers we need to press a button to get a fix to our problems. The simple truth is that we have lost patience and lost faith in society and even ourselves. This is why the world is messed up, this is why many struggle, this is why many people do not have their “I’ in I’ll be there for you.

However there is an “I” we can all have, but we have to make our own “I” smaller to accept it. We have to submit and have faith in an unknown source. We submit to doctors, quacks and friends we are not entirely certain of, so why can we not submit to one more unknown?

There is one solution, it is not an instant fix but that is not to say an instant fix cannot happen. It does require an open mind but at the same time a mind that has to be closed off to much of the world. It does require trusting ourselves and it does provide the ultimate “I” who will always say “I’ll be the there for you and it is written down as a guarantee.

Where to find a friend you always can trust on?

The popping question is where to find a that friend, the “I” in the ultimate “I’ll be there for you”? There is one present friend in times of need. Do you want to find out more about this friend? Then start your 7-day discovery tour…

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Based in Cape Town, South Africa Matt Newnham is a writer who has a cup that is always a little more than half full. Matt is passionate about life and success and his writing has earned him the title “The Master of Emotional Appeal” as he manages to find the true heart and human feeling of almost any subject.  Matt is the Author of the children’s book series “Space Ranger Fred“. Follow Matt on Twitter @MattNewnhamZA  , on Facebook and on his website www.mattnewnham.co.za

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